In my preceding post, I talked about life being akin to an interactive movie where nothing is real but the experience (https://exposingsingapore.wordpress.com/2017/05/08/life-is-very-much-like-an-interactive-movie/). I also mentioned that life thus became an act of lucid dreaming and that I mentioned living was consequently the art of dreaming lucidly. I didn’t elaborate, however, on how to turn living into an art of dreaming lucidly or what it means exactly.
First, most people build their lives without realizing how life works. Consequently, most lives are shaped unconsciously. While it is true that we make conscious decisions in our lives all the time, we do not shape our lives consciously since we have no idea of what life is and we are ignorant to the reality that all life is fundamentally one. The notion I’m going to put forth has already been made by many others although mostly they are thought as a fringe make believe nonsense. In fact, I used to believe so too. So many others have also misunderstood the notion and basically, distort it as a harsh enforcement of positive mindset or thinking or a regimented vivid dreaming/visualizing or the mindless fear of negative thoughts.
Now, just how do you consciously create your life? First, you need to know exactly what you want in your life. By this, I do not mean the objects of your interest but your base motivation in life. What do you really want out of life? Some may say they desire a life of happiness, some others may say they desire true love, others may wish to leave the world a better place. Next, be as specific as you can in knowing your desire. If you desire a life of happiness you must know what that constitutes. If you desire true love you must know what kind of person you would love. If you desire to leave the world a better place you must know in what specific area you wish to do that. Now, turn that desire that’s often selfish or full of the will to receive into the equivalent desire or will to give. If you desire a life of happiness you must know that you desire to lead a life full of gratitude. If you desire a true love, you must know that you actually desire to express and bestow love, unconditionally, toward another person. Likewise, if you desire to leave the world a better place in a specific area then you want to lessen the suffering of people pertaining to that specific area that you have imagined. This is important since by purifying your desire into a desire to bestow or give with as little desire to receive anything in return is how you ‘market’ your desire into the universe and make God work. This is why regimented positive thinking and visualizing are nonsense and ineffective UNLESS you turn your desire into the desire to give and not the desire to receive. The universe or God doesn’t grant personal desires. It grants only pure desires to bestow as it is God’s nature to bestow and not receive and you have that God’s nature in you too. You and God are basically inseparable! God then will manifest in its unlimited intelligence and creative power your desire to bestow as it is also God’s will. Thus, your desires will be manifested impersonally. This means you do not get to choose the particular object of your desire. This also means that you need to be sure of what you really want. Say, you want A because A is B, C, and D to you. In reality, the A that you desire is not B or has no B quality in it. God will manifest for you an A that’s likely not the A you desire that has B, C, and D in it! So, you’re being provided, impersonally, based on your need to selflessly bestow. It goes without saying that in the desire and act of your bestowal that you too receive what you bestow but the desire to receive must not be there or a primary motivation in desiring something in life. In other words, you get what you want by the desire of giving what you want without desiring to receive what you want.
So, finally, happy creating, lucidly!
A typical summary of life would read like the following, we were born, we age as we live, and we will finally die. Within that period of a lifetime, we spend our time avoiding pain and chasing after pleasure. We may or may not chase pleasure at the pain of others but we chase after pleasure nonetheless in the attempt of aligning with our own ideals of a pleasant life. However, once in a while, life opens up its true nature to some of us through various ways which in essence having to do with the weakening of our egos. That life declares to us that the ego is nothing but a mental construct. A mere conviction that we ascribe to ourselves out of our and societies’ valuation of ourselves and our unique human narratives. In turn, these people teach us about the hidden nature of existence, of being. Succinctly, the teaching reveals to us that all life is one. There are no seven-and-a-half billion human beings on this planet in addition to the animals. There’s only one, both seen and unseen, fundamentally speaking. Of course, such a revelation is very hard to intellectualize if not impossible altogether.
It is also often said that spiritual awakening or the realization of the true nature of Self (note the capital S) would bring about a liberation from suffering. Thus, awakening is often pursued as another human endeavor to avoid suffering not knowing how the said liberation from suffering is made possible.
Every deed taken not in a full realization of God in the small selves is a deed taken by the ego, the biomechanical animal creature which is preoccupied with advancing its egoic and physical security and with chasing after pleasure for itself even to the detriment of others. Thus, beings can be selfish, mean, and cruel toward one another and as a result, we suffer one way or another since the game of separation (life) is being played in its full illusionary nature.
However, since these egos aren’t real, the damage they do to others isn’t real either, fundamentally speaking, since there are NO REAL persons to be damaged, to begin with. The damage done is only ‘real’ as experiences like a dream or nightmare which is real only as an awful experience. So, thus, life is very much like an interactive movie where we can watch it unfold as an experience but nothing real can ever be imparted upon us and by us.
I’m not saying suffering isn’t real for it is but it is real as experiences only. A dream or nightmare that lasts a lifetime would seem real too and it is real but only as an experience of a lifetime. With this realization, everything that transpires in life loses its significance since there is no one capable of doing anything to anyone else since there is no one to begin with but the One Self. Of course, it goes without saying that no one would want to endure a lifetime of nightmare but knowing it a nightmare helps alleviate suffering as the nightmare loses its significance. Life thus becomes the art of dreaming lucidly.
So, when you’re going through tough times, know that life is very much like an interactive movie. It is real only in being the flow of experience. You are never in real danger. There is no one to win anything and likewise, there’s no one who stands to lose anything. There only appear to be winners and losers. In the end, although we experience life subjectively, ultimately, there is only a single Self watching it all, alone in the movie theater. Happy watching or should I say, happy dreaming!
The difference between life and dream is an illusion, however persistent that illusion is.
Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one. -Albert Einstein.